Reposted: I don't get it, why is he still here?

People i think misunderstood my ? okay my question was why won't he leave? legally i can't get rid of his stuff (already contacted a lawyer). just want to know what is going thru his head? he's making it difficult for both of us. ur thoughts?








Ok, my hubby and i have been 2gether almost 7 years and have had our ups and downs. i cheated on him a while back and we tried to make things work. in december we decided 2 try for a child and became pregnant in july of this year. he now decided he can't cope with me cheating and has fallen in love with an older woman (who knows he's married and has a child on the way). i understand his leaving, what i don't understand is y he refuses to get his stuff out of our house and give me back the house keys? he doesn't live at home anymore (he was gone for 2 weeks, came back for a little bit and just left again on thursday) and hasn't helped pay any bills in over a month. he tells me how he would have a party if i got into a car wreck and me and his unborn child died - who would say something like that? i take the blame for what i did, but y won't he just go if that's what he wants?








Reposted: I don't get it, why is he still here?
If the property is yours or if the tenancy is only in your name then you can get him removed - he has no right to be there. You are pregnant, and no matter what you did he has no right to hang around emotionally abusing you. See a solicitor immediately. He's moved on and started a relationship with someone else, but it sounds like he isn't over you. He obviously has some stuff to sort out in his head, but as you are pregnant you can't be putting up with a man who leans on you financially and emotionally abuses you. You need your space and you need it fast - for the health and well being of you and your child. You owe him nothing - you already tried to make things work. So see a solicitor and they will tell you how to get him forcibly removed.Reposted: I don't get it, why is he still here?
I am not sure what second rate lawyer you talked to but you can pack his things for him. You have to tell him (in writting would be better and keep proof) that he has 30 days to get his stuff and get gone. Kind of like you are evicting him and this is legal. Pack his things and store them in a safe place and on the 31st day put his crap on the curb. Good luck and I hope that this helps.





AND SHAME ON YOU FOR BEING A CHEATING WHORE.
He won't let go because you are holding on and letting him hold on. You haven't filed for divorce or legal separation or anything yet. He thinks you're still hanging on hoping he will come back, so he's letting you hang on until he knows if his new situation is permanent or not. Give up on the loser and go see an attorney.
get three friends to come over. buy a lot of boxes





pack up his stuff and put it in a storage unit. change the locks. get the money out of the joint account. get an attorney.
I would be tempted to take all his stuff and have a big freakin bonfire
divorce or legal separation may be your answers to getting him out. he's punishing you, and obviously doesn't like you very much, not to mention he may not want this baby. that comment was hateful, and i'd be inclined to respond to him the same way. he may not love the other woman, but is getting back at you because he's hurt and you betrayed him. he's probably trying to make you as miserable as he is feeling. whatever the two of you do, you need to remember the child that is going to be born into this hostile situation.






Well your just as sick as he is, because I would politely take his belongings to his gf's house and leave them there.Why would you allow him to come back and fourth I feel sorry for the baby, you guys already got drama going on and the baby knows it.If you can pay bills and survive for you and your blessing Why is this happening, did you hear what he said he would party if you got in to a wreck and killed yourself and unborn That's scary, How can you sleep at night with one eye open? Take the blame and take hee to what you know.
I think he won't leave because it keeps all your emotions in a turmoil and keeps you stressed and angry. It is a passive aggressive behavior. I can't understand why someone would say something as horrible as he did, but it sounds like he is lashing out. He is trying to say things that hurt and he obviously succeeded. As hard as it seems, you need to take care of yourself and your unborn baby. The last thing you need is all the stress. I wish you lots of luck.