PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO COPE WITH WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING! PLEASE HELP ME?

ok this is whats ben going on, i love my boy friend and we had lived together for like 4 months, july, aug, step, oct, and nov. and every thing was just about picture perfect. but now its 2 months later and we are always fighting, but its always because people are always coming up to me and telling me he's cheating on me, but it doesn't make since because he is just about AWLAYS on the phone with me, and his mom doesn't like how im 16 and he's 19 and his mom has his daughter until he gets his feet on the ground, but she found out we were dating and she told him that he couldn't see his daughter until he dropped me, and he picked me! (i was really really upset) but it just doesn't make sense that he would pick me over his daughter but cheat on me... but yea does any one have any advise on how to cope with my feelings and when people come up to me and tell me these things?PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO COPE WITH WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING! PLEASE HELP ME?
you honestly care about what people say? then you must be a real idiot. i dont think his mother had teh right to do that, put him on the spot and you need to speak to her and make things right by getting her to rethink and let ur boyfriend see his daughter, or when she grows up she will ask'daddy why did you chose a woman over me'? and if you are still together by that time would you want to think that it was your fault. honestly dont listen to what any one says, its to get you enoyed, england is based on gossip, because thats all they do now, everyone in every country cannot go on without making a problem for someone else. what you should focus on is getting the father and daughter together again.PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO COPE WITH WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING! PLEASE HELP ME?
Why does this sound like a ';Jerry Springer'; episode just waiting to happen...





Where are your parents in all of this? Why are you living with a boy when you're only 16? He has a kid already? (His priority should be with that kid!) Go home to your parents, finish school and get out of his trailer park before he drags you into the mess that is his life.
First off your 16 and dating a 19 year old with a child. 19 is not bad but Uhh...drop him, he has a kid. You do not need the drama right now. He sounds like he has a lot of drama with his family now too. Finish high school and concentrate on yourself and making yourself better.
wait your sixteen and your not living with your parents...hun move back in with them it will do you good....and idk what kind of situation you got yourself here cuz it aint a great one he seems like the kinda person who you dont want to hang around
The only one who can set the record straight is your boyfriend. Ask him. Tell him that you are going crazy with everything happening and that you NEED to know whats up.
dont listen to dose people their obv trying to break you apart and if they say that again ask them to prove it to you.
why is a 16 yr old goin out with a 19 yr old who has a kid?


you should find someone around your own age
he is not cheating on you
Darling!





I can see that you need some space to get your head around the bombardment life is giving you, but it's not going to stop, is it? I know the feeling. I won't bore you with anecdotes though.





I think you need to consider where these stories are coming from. Your lifelong friends or some s*** stirrer? You're young, so maybe, if things are too difficult, it might be easier just to get out while things aren't too bad. If it gets too much, teel him his daughter needs him and get the hell out of there. Don't look back.





I've been in harmful relationships too many times and things never get better once there worse. If it's really that bad- just get out, girl. His problems, not yours. Get a new guy and live your life.
19 is a bit old for you, Dearie! You're looking for trouble with this one, from the sound of it. You cannot tell for sure if he's cheating on you unless YOU catch HIM in the act, RIGHT? So, you're never really gonna believe these chicks who probably have some self-interest going for themselves when they come running to you probably hoping you'll break-up with the guy! Tell 'em you don't want to hear it! Forget about it %26amp; you'll take care of your own business. That's how you handle it!!!!!
You are so foolish. This guy is too irresponsible to care for his own child. He doesn't have the morals to be a man and put his child first and take care of her, what makes you think he has the morals not to cheat on the chick he shacked up with. Instead of manning up and being a father. You are blind. And it will come back and bite you in the butt. Because when you get knocked up by this loser, he will dump you and move on to the next fling. And you will have to fight tooth and nail for child support. And what little you get won't pay the bills. And your child will suffer because of the NO FATHER ISSUE. Because he will not be a stable part of your child's life either. And it will be your fault that your child grows up with pain and struggles. And goes without and has a screwed up self-image of himself because you knowingly chose to shack up with a loser who doesn't give a flip about anyone's needs but his own.





You should go home and get your education and get a real life. One that is not going to end up with you being a single mother struggling to make ends meet on welfare and a minimum wage job. But you probably won't because you probably think you know it all and that you will change him because you are 16 and don't have a clue what life is really about. I feel sorry for his kid and any kids he has with you. They are the ones who pay for ignorance. And they do pay dearly.





And he probably is cheating on you. He doesn't respect his own flesh and blood. His child. He abandoned her. If he wanted her he would work two jobs and concentrate on spending his time with her. Not shacking up with a teenager. So why do you think he would respect you? A girl who would give herself up to him with no commitment. They are right.
ok... first of all he is a BIG TIME LOSER if he would ever pick a chic over his daughter! for that reason alone you should leave him... if you do stay then i pray you dont get pregnant and end up in the same situation that his daughters mother is in right now (him picking a chic over his daughter)! second... if he is low enough to do his daughter dirty like that then he would FOR SURE do you dirty too! i put money on it that he is cheating! if it was one person telling you this then maybe you could question it but if its a bunch of ppl saying the same thing then 9 times out of 10 there is some legitimacy there!