Is this considered cheating?

recently found out that my husband has been going on online dating websites and has a few of them not just one. he is also posted as single on his profiles. i am not trying to be nosie, i just noticed a huge difference in how he would act wen he was on his laptop and he would be with an attitude problem and act different with me lately. i confronted him about it one day and he denied it so i pulled out the lap top n showed him what i saw. he admitted it and said that he just wanted some friends and they have to be women because he supposedly does not cope well with guys or feels comfortable speaking to guys. so why is he posted as single in a few dating sites? ..... this sounds like bull **** to me . what do you guys n girls think? is this considered cheating?Is this considered cheating?
.If he wanted only female chat friends, he could've found them on myspace or DRAMAbook (and that would've been suspicious enough). He's on dating sites to either date or to play around with other people's feelings and live out some little online fantasy he has.





If it were me, he'd be told the profiles (on dating sites) need to go away or our relationship would. Period.





Something doesn't have to be cheating to be inappropriate. ANYTHING he wouldn't do with you watching him...or wouldn't want you doing, is something he shouldn't be doing either.Is this considered cheating?
well it might not actually be cheating...yet! but he is on the path and actually looking! just a matter of time. IF he 'needs' friends and they 'need' to be female, why is he not on facebook or yahoo looking for friends instead. Why be on THOSE sites?





Just a matter of time sweetie, he WILL cheat
He hasn't cheated, but it's in his head. He knows most respectable women would not go near him if he said he was married. But a lot of men are known to do this, there is no excuse, and it's there in his mind. He doesn't respect you enough, and clearly not the women he is chatting to as one isn't enough, he needs more.
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Yes, I agree with you: this is bull! Confront him and tell him how you feel. Insist that he stop. You have every right to insist on this. More info on what it takes for a successful marriage in my ';source.';
Considered by whom? The cheating police? Why are you asking other people what the rules in YOUR relationship are? It's your relationship, you set the rules.
why are you waiting around for him to shag someone else ? it is obvious you are being taken for a ride, just friends ? why the secrecy ?
It isn't cheating but it's immature and dishonest. Is that the kind of relationship you want to be in?
I consider this to be cheating. As a married couple, you should know who his friends are and vice versa.
I think it's crap and a total lack of respect for both you AND your marriage...
Yes. This is cheating and will only lead to more. He knows it too or he wouldn't try to hide it.
What other proof do you want that he either is or is going to?
It may not be cheating per se, but it IS bullspit.
That's not cheating.
sounds like bullsh*t to me too...
It is B.S. He is trolling.


Time for you to open up a dating web site and copy everything he listed on his site. Single, etc. Don't add anything extra, just match his profile.


Then let him know you are also trolling for ';friends'; and will continue to troll as long as he trolls.





If he doesn't decide your more important than anyone else and erases his accounts, then you know it is over and time to move on. If he does decide he wants only you, he has received a very important message, ';what he does, is o.k. for you to do';, that should make him think twice in the future.
It's not cheating...yet. It's the groundwork to cheating. He's either not satisfied with the marriage and wants out, or he genuinely believes he's some sort of player and can do whatever or whoever he wants. And that line about not coping well with guys is bs. I used to have many female friends before my wife, because I got along better with females than males. However, once we were committed and even before the wedding, I started talking to them less and less. I now only have male friends, and she only has female friends. It is better for the marriage and relationship if the temptation and the image is not there. After all, you should be getting what you need out of the opposite sex and a best friend from your spouse.





I would sit him down and talk to him frankly about this. If he still insists that he's right, it may be time to get a professional third party involved. Whether that be a counselor or a judge is your call on what you want to put up with.