I am in severe pain and need surgery soon wife cheating left me alone to go out with her BF. Is she suppose to

I have been married for 4 yrs and I found out my wife was cheating on my. After that she reacted in different ways. First she apologized then she got mad and wanted divorce. She will move out soon. But in the mean time I got a small infection nothing serious but it hurts very bad and gives me fevers upto 104F. The doctor said I might have to go to the emergency room tomm. My family does not lives close to me she is the only person I have. Still she left me and went out to movie and dinner with that guy. She is not openly cheatin and says will move out soon. She says she had not had sex but spent a night in hotel with him. She is the same one who send 2000 IMs in 2 months and 245 IMs to the guy in last 5 days. I helped her get a good job recently b4 that she was makking about 1200 a month now she makes 5 times of that. But even in the past she used to spend a lot of my money in shopping. Tell me how do I cope with this. WHY GOD WHY ? WHY ME. I loved her still me. Life has lost meaningI am in severe pain and need surgery soon wife cheating left me alone to go out with her BF. Is she suppose to
Her bad behavior is not your fault. I hope you get your infection under control FIRST - that's really important. Infections can be life-threatening!





Also, as soon as you can protect your assets and get a good lawyer!





You deserve better!I am in severe pain and need surgery soon wife cheating left me alone to go out with her BF. Is she suppose to
There are some nasty women out there, I am not included! :) You just tell me your address and I will come take care of you! :)
Just hold on. I have no room for judgement, but you diserve someone and something else M U C H B E T T E R. Try going to a church that you like. You will start to see that everthing will all start to make sence and you will start to figure out what is important. God! He will love you forever. By the way, Why haven't you changend the locks on the doors?
Peter you deserve better. Some times life isn't fair and you feel cheated and you have every right to feel that way. She's bad news. although this will hurt you as you love her and want her. She isn't worth having she sounds very selfish and cold ruthlesss you know what.





So let her go. she will come to realize in time.. But you on the other hand have something better waiting for you out there. and so you you keep on plugging away. and She will come to you in time.





Get yourself looked after with your fever. and call a cab don't bother asking her she sounds like she'll remind you it was a big deal what she did. She doesnt' sound like a good person at all.





YOU can do much better okay. Just tell yourself that causse its true.





Not all women are like her.





Kick her to the curb where the rest of the garbage goes she'll fit right in.
I am sorry you are going through all of this right now. Sounds as though she is heartless. I tell you just focus right now on getting better. After you are better I say try to get your mind off of her as much as you can. Find a hobby and find things you enjoyed before you got married. Go out have fun. Why waste your time on a woman that would do that sort of thing to you. I know you think your life has came to an end but hey it just might be a beginning of a new and better life ahead. There are so many women out there. Once a door closes usually a better one opens up. Take care of yourself and have fun. Life is not over.
My first husband cheated. I know how you feel. Though what did isn't nearly as bad as what she's doing because she's throwing it in your face.





Life hasn't lost meaning, it's only changed. You deserve better than her.
While you are in the middle of the storm it looks bleakest. All you can do is take one step at a time to get out of the mess. Have her bags packed for her so they will be handy when she gets home and kick her a** out the door. Make sure the door hits her on the way out.


In the morning go to the doctor and get your health back up to snuff. When you are feeling better physically, you will gradually feel better emotionally, and sooner or later come to the realization that you are much better off without her. Fish and the sea immediately comes to mind.


Sorry for your troubles.
i am so sorry to hear this, the only thing i would do is pray and wait for God to make it better because he will.
Do you REALLY want to know why?? Because there is something bigger and better planned for you. MOVE ON!!! No one deserves to be treated like that but it happens all too often.
dear pete,


`first dont stress!! u must protect ur health, be tough n be strong.


`shes being a coldhearted b**** and the more u let her walk over u the worse she will disrespect u.


`next thing is to get ripe pears and olive leaf tea or extract as these will fight the fever %26amp; fight the infection


`do not eat any other foods but only eat /drink the pears, olive leaf %26amp; natural things as follows


1in heinermans book it says that cinnamon, ginger, cayenne pepper %26amp; basil tea is good for fevers.


`when u are well, do not eat yeast bread or drink beer as these make fungus that can confuse the brain and reduce ur masculinity, so keep having the olive leaf extract.


`now the next thing to take is MACA ,this is from the health food store and it is an essential part of building a mans masculinity, to be strong, not let cold / mean women treat u like a doormat and this in turn makes women respect u more. You wont let another woman treat u like that. It was her duty to help take care of u, at least till u got better.


Hey like the others said, theres something better for you, pete
Life has lost it's meaning why? because the woman your with decided to go in another direction? Let it go, you deserve better and trust me, it's out there.
find yourself a nother girl
by knowing that she is cheating and allowing it to go on while you still live together you are sending a message that it is OK. Either kick her out or move out yourself and consider yourself better off without her, once a cheater always a cheater
oh my God, i am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. the only thing you can do right now is concentrait on your health, and if she so chooses to live her life in such an unhealthy mannor, then you should choose to have no part of it. i know that this kind of transition will be a difficult one, but keep your chin up and things WILL get better.
put here butt out tonight. Shes doing so well tell her you want upkeep money that will get her attention.Shes leaving you so ask for it
Peter, I am sorry your are going through a lot yourself, If I was you I would probably be very depressed and feeling lonely.


But you must remember that EVERYTHING has a purpose in life, the minimum little move has its purpose. OK? So if this girl didn't respect the relationship, that means she didn't care. I am sorry it hurts.


You have to let her go.. not only from your place but also from your heart, I know you must be very sad and to a point disappointed, But it is not the end do not give up Peter, Time will help you get through anything, God won't let you alone.


You said that life has lost meaning, It might sound right for a while for you but then you Will see hat it was just a bad moment in your life, You Will find the light again.


Forgive her and just keep going, do not keep resentment for yourself cause that might make your life really miserable.





My advice for you Peter is to keep going, and find some activity to keep you busy. You Will find the right woman.


Good Luck Peter!!!
This is definitely the reason you've got that infection. Get yourself taken care of and get healthy again. Your wife has betrayed your trust - be glad she is going and know that someone better will come along for you.
Sue for divorce, and ask for alimony. Use every legal tact in the book to make her pay for your suffering. She has been using you and now you want her help until you get back on your feet emotionally. I can tell you how to cope with this, GET ANGRY! She's a lying cheat. Treat her like one. Then go get yourself a real woman.
Keep her out and take care of yourself or check into a hospital. She is only sponging off of you now. Just because you are married doesn't mean she has to take care of you, not when she has a BF waiting for her.
In fact life has not lost meaning. You need to pray to your Heavenly Father for first; strength to endure your ailment, and second emotional strength to deal with your harlot of a wife!





Why she left you sick and alone to sin is beyond me. I could see if you guys were proactively heading towards divorce, and mature enough to remain in the same house, but for her to leave in such a time of need ( to parade up in some man other than her husbands face is just a hot mess).......WHOA!





This may be God stalking you. Calling you to him. She may be what God is trying to pull you away from. It happens like that sometimes.
ok what do u being sick have to do w/ur wife cheating???? if she wants out then give her out.. if she doesn't suggest working it out w/u and that's what u want then let her go.. taking her back will only encourage her to cheat especially if u and her don't seek marital counseling...