be there, support him and love him.How do you cope with your husband when he can not have sex?
There are other options besides drugs to treat erectile dysfunction. Before the holy grail of Viagra was invented there were such things as pellets that were placed in the urethra and surgeries to insert a device into the penile tissue which inflates. Those are just two options. Have him go to a urologist to discuss other treatment options that are available to him.
In the mean time, explore other options for having sex with your husband that don't require an erect penis, and also explore the world of toys with your husband as well as by yourself.
In sickness and in health.....if you cheat on him, you are a worthless cow. He already feels horrible I am sure. I'm sure his tongue still works just fine.
have him pleasure you other ways. have him use toys on you. just remember how much you love him and need to be there for him. It seems that doctors should be able to help him further.
The fact that you said you want to cheat for satisfaction makes me f u c k ing sick! Do you love your husband? How would you feel if you couldn't have sex and he went out and had an affair? Do you think he likes not being able to have sex. You make me sick!
My mom told me that my dad had used injections....it worked for them. Talk to his urologist and see...there are many more options than to have an affair. I'm sure he feel so bad about himself.....Even if it isn't his fault. He needs love and support...if he is willing to accept it and not shut you out. Good luck!
Wow that sucks. At least you have an excuse. The only way you are going to have sex is to have it with someone else. Weigh how important it is to you and decide. I'm in!
What kind of answers did you expect? Try therapy!
Ask him if you can have a boyfriend as long as hubby can watch.
Remember ';for better or worse in sickness and in health'; I would check into a pump. They have a pump system with an air tube that makes it rigid. If I had that problem, that's what I'd do. My goal in a relationship is to make sure my partner is pleased, not just sex but in all areas Good Luck
for better or for worst, in sickness and in health... I guess this is the part of your vows you were not paying attention too... If life is that devastating then please divorce him first and then find yourself another man.
But please don't further hurt his feelings by cheating on him, because he can't get it up. I am sure internally he feels less of a man and your actions might force him to kill himself. I am sure you are a nice person caught up in a bad situation, but you cannot be so heartless....
Talk to a professional maybe?
There's always a way! just as long as you DON'T CHEAT! he doesn't need a unfaithful wife to add to his already existing problem!
Talk to a specialist FIND someone to help you guys.
A friend with benefits? Call me.
I can be an option.
just because you cannot have regular intercouse, doesnt mean all sex is out. be creative!
have you tried talking to him?
What does he say about not being able to give you what a normal healthy marriage has.
He should let you bang someone else and watch. Maybe take some pictures and videos of it to boot.
Ouch, I guess this is the sickness and health part of the vow. Has he discused this with the right doctor. I know it maybe too expensive, but he may have some choices to help the ed.
I suggest you think less about what you are mising out on an concentrate on how he must feel......then both of you go back to the doctors in order to discuss other alternatives.....they are out there and BOTH of you have got to have an open mind and be willing to at least consider them. My husband has type 2 diabetes and I always put him first..he's been lucky so far but if the disease starts causing those types of problems then I would support everything that he wanted to do in order to help the situation.....there are always alternatives.
There are many ways to have sex that do not involve penile insertion. What do you think lesbians do, have coffee together? Don't laugh but there are books out there detailing it for you if you need help. I would suggest asking him to ';pet'; etc so that the two of you still have intimacy in your relationship.
There are also support groups for this problem in a marriage for the male and female.
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