How to cope when (seperated) husband moved girlfriend to town.?

I have been seperated from my husband for 4 months now due to his cheating on our marraige. He moved his girlfriend into town this week. They have leased a house and just moved in together yesterday. Our girls are with them this week as we share alternate weeks for our custody agreement. I am going crazy with my feelings of anger, sadness and confusion. It is hard to concentrate on anything at all without thinking about her being in town now with my children (and my used to be man)UGH!!!How to cope when (seperated) husband moved girlfriend to town.?
Kudos for using the shared parenting option. You are a pioneer in legislation to represent the rights of children.





That said, hon, he's a cheater. She'll get hers, ok?





I can also predict she did not count on being mommy every other week. He probably never even mentioned your arrangement and let her think he had opted for the traditional ';every other weekend, optional and unenforceable'; program.





I think her presence serves his need. She's going to be quite short lived, doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry ...etc... it's just not ';romantic';.





So, eventually, he's going to have to face the piper, and become accountable for the kids himself. She's about to become the hammer.





I'd be lmao.





Warning: once this relationship hits the skids, and he's on his own, you're gonna look pretty good. Dont let him target you. He's a cheater. He's gonna stay a cheater. You're out. Stay out.





Maybe he'll start to grow up. Maybe.How to cope when (seperated) husband moved girlfriend to town.?
Time heals all wounds. In time you will learn to live without him. Take this time and do something for yourself. Maybe you and a friend can go to a day spa and pamper yourself. This will help relieve some of the anger and sadness you are feeling. Good luck.
You better learn to get one with your own life now cause he's as good as gone so stop concerning yourself with his life.
Divorce the jerk and move on with your life.
I know it really sucks. My husband moved out when we were separated and he stayed with another woman. He missed me after two weeks and was begging to come home. I didn't let that happen right away. We are rebuilding the marriage. Just try to do things that you like to do. I slept a lot for the first few weeks. Then I started going out to dinner with friends, going to church, talking to guys online. It was fun and if we hadn't gotten back, I think I would have been ok. You'll be fine. It's just going to take time to get past this.
Get on with your own life. Obviously he has. Start looking into proper custody of your kids now...don';t leave it till it's too late. Start to think of yourself as divorced not seperated...he will not be back...do not leave yourself open to be abused in this situation. Put your kids first.
Yes i trully understand how this makes you feel. seems your not quite over him. Its hard but be brave and do something for yourself. Like, go to the hairdressers, buy some new sexy clothes, FLIRT and find a guy who you can have some fun with(not necessary in bed). go out for the night with your girlfriends. DONT stay at home thinking what he's up to, out do him on the social life, your free now and you can have MORE fun than he can. go on, be daring and have a happier life. good luck and please let us know how you go
Ugh,


This time really stinks for you! It won't last forever.


Try try try and be strong.


Couldn't imagine what you are going through but I do know that your children will always be ';your children';.


My parents are separated and Mom's always mom and dad's always dad.





My sister always told me at times like this...keep busy, its the best thing for you. 4 months is still so fresh, this sucks and your ';ex'; well, it's not real nice on his part. All happening so sudden I mean with the g/f moving to town and being around your kids.


Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished and your beautiful children that you made with your ex. You will always have that history, time is changing for you and it can only mean good things will come your way.





Discipline yourself to get out there and keep busy. Summer is a great time for that!


All the best.
Well...I have the following to say...





You're the Ex wife . Your feelings although extremely immature...can be understood because of hurt feelings, you may not have someone new now but he does. You're now unhappy, he isn't..you know what i mean ?





Plus I doubt you really know the woman your ex husband cheated on you with. Or do you ? You don't know her and I think you really don't want to get to know her...do you ?





If you want to hate her, you can.. but its just childish and selfish...behavior, like if you can't have your ex husband back the new gf can't have him either.. right ?





It is understood I'm sure by the new gf that you have to have some sort of a a relationship with your ex husband because of your girls and this relationship between you and him as parents to these girls will never change.





Move on, get out do something nice for yourself and your girls. Don't bad mouth their father regardless of what he's done.. it will all back fire, be as polite as you can and you can come out the winner and the bigger person in this.


Do something fun and wonderful for yourself. :) Spend time with friends and family.. If anything you can work on strengthening the relationship you have with your girls,so they know regardless of what daddy did or didn't do. You'll always put them first. :)





Your ex husband and this woman deserve each other.


Don't hold grudge against your girls being around this other woman, she may be nice around the girls, and treat them accordingly you never know. :)





You may look at the SOURCE LIST BELOW..Please don't HATE.. just because your Ex husband has a gf doesn't mean I'm in any way shape or form like her.
It's okay to take yourself out for some counseling, you know. It's pretty normal to go a bit stir crazy when your partner just moves on like that -- but if you let it get to you too much, it will effect your children badly. So do the adult thing and talk it out with a professional counselor so that you can pick them up graciously and civilly, and just walk away from the mess.