Many times ive read messages of other girls on my husband's mobile,i feel cheated,how can i cope with that?

its been one year since we are together .....yet many times i caught him either talking with other girls on the phone or sending messages ,by his behaviour i know they are not only casual 'friends'.....two days ago i read another message from another new number ....2 months ago he tried to kiss an ex girlfriend who lives not far from us .....when i asked him about it he said she had challenged him and that he was drunk.....it has always hurt ....but 2 days ago , i had enough , i felt something break inside ...and i still feel empty inside ....yet deep down i love him and can't live without him ...how can i cope with all this? is this called cheating ? am afraid to stay ....am afraid to leave .....yet i don't wanna lose him ....where did i go wrong ?


if anyone of you knows wat am talking about , please tell me how you live with it ?


How you try to forgive , or should you forgive ?


and how to forget ?


i feel so lonely , so empty.....


eagerly awaiting all your reply,thx u in advanceMany times ive read messages of other girls on my husband's mobile,i feel cheated,how can i cope with that?
If he has messages there is obviously more to it than that. Have you tried calling the people who left the messages and asking them why they are sending messages to your husband - that's what I did - he had told them we were divorced - oh all sorts of rubbish. The genuine ones dumped him when they knew the truth but there were a couple of slappers who didn't care and just wanted him anyway. I eventually got fed up of him but it does take time. when the bad outweighs the good you will know.Many times ive read messages of other girls on my husband's mobile,i feel cheated,how can i cope with that?
**** someone else like his boss or best friend
it is hard and this is dangerous. Have you really talked to him?


Not about the calls but about your relationship. Have you expressed your feeling to him?


Ask him if it is alright if you can call other men?


Then ask him why.





I know it is hard, I know it is scary,I know what love is and I know what betrayal is.





Ask him if he want to married or in this relationship now. Ask him if he want s out?


You cannot make him do anything that he does not want to do, but that rule also goes for you.


Try counseling, Talk to your doctor, priest etc.


Being like the way you are now, in no good for your health for starters. You have to be respected by him, not used by him. It is equal in any relationship and if it is one sided, It severely hurts the other who is totally committed to the relationship. Please go talk to one of the top. Get yourself back.