Cheating and aftermath....how did you cope?

i have been cheated on a few years ago and i still have huge problems with it (i am 35). he slept with his ex-wife several times while we were together and had countless women on the internet that he also called and kept nude pics of. i found all this out, he never told me anyting about it. i am still extremely devastated by it and can stand him touching me, nor do i believe anything he say. i feel he never wanted me and i was just one of many. he has been working on trying to get the trust back and spends every free minute with me (for 6 months now). but i still feel sick over what happened and could cry every day. i loved him with all my heart and i thought he was the man for my life. any experiences like this?Cheating and aftermath....how did you cope?
...move on and find one in common with your values of life and


you can trust...good luck.


redCheating and aftermath....how did you cope?
married for 10 years, dated 3 before that. separated 3. All of this happened to me as well. The cheating, the lies, the internet porn, 900 numbers, inappropriate w/teens, emailing and chatting for hours on the net w/strangers (women).


Add alcoholism to that, and it was more than i could take.





16 years, we are now divorced. I wish I left immediately after discovering the early problems. I kept thinking it would get better, etc.


The person this hurts the most is my little son.


I feel for you. best of luck to you, sorry this is happening to you.
I honestly think you should leave him. Love can make us blind, but you must remember that life is too short to continue to suffer. In the case you stay forever, I'm sorry that such a tolerant loyal personal as yourself is having to deal with an adulterer - who has done it repeatidly, it's not to late to find a better man.
Want some cheese to go with all that Whining ?





Lets break this down a little .





He cheated , porn freak , calls chics ,


exchanges nude photos


with other women , lies about


and God only knows what else , Right ?





You resent him , don't want sex with him , no touching ,


and he makes you sick , Right ?





The problem here seams to be that you don't know when


to get out !





There's nothing right about anything , Right ?





So ,


quit whining and either leave or shut up and take it .
Well it was because of not wanting him to touch me like you described above that I left my daughters biological father. I was afraid that jerk would give me an STD and he was screwing all these women from bars. I married a total sweetie pie after I left that loser. My daughters father or not, I was not going to tolerate that behavior. I left him when she was 2 mo old.
I been there a few times.Simple as we where played and it hurt.When you find the right person you will know and trust wont be an issue.Watch what happens to their future.Carma will catch up sooner or later.You get what you put in.Let it go and dont ware your heart on your sleeve.
realize that I was the one who is now free of this kind of person who doesn't respect women and that I am now in control of my life and I will not allow anyone to harm me like this again
once a cheater always a cheater
he is player he is not going to change. Just divorce him and get it over with. He is cheating right now im sure!Don't trust him!
i cant understand for the life of me, why you are still there. i bet, it wont get better!
First, no, hon, you don't love this guy, you lust probably after him, but you don't love him---not any more than he loves you.... you love what you WISH he were--a faithful, loving companion, and he for sure, from this posting, isn't one. So what he is, and reality aren't the same, are they?





If marriage/relationships are Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust, with the trust gone, because the passion got shared, sweets you have neither respect nor admiration for him...It's all in the toilet. And the image of him pronging all the women will never go away...ask anyone.





The obvious question is why do you believe you deserve so little from a relationship? You and all of his other women are jerks he keeps in reserve, and you need to find out why.





If you are a lovely lady, you deserve a lovely man. This one isn't it.








Any experience like this? Yup. And the instant I found out he betrayed me, I ran, as in outa there, as in gone, left the state, never to go back--ended an 18 year marriage, and we had it all---$$$ position in the community, great jobs, travel the world, yadaydyadya..... It's stupid and a waste of time to sit in your beer wishing what won't happen.

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