How do you cope up with a cheating husband?? Help!?

We've been married for 8 yrs. We have a 4 yr. old. Our marriage never seem solid or stable. We've had many arguments and misunderstandings. One day, I saw his cellphone bills and he's been calling a number to TX from Dec. 2007-Feb. 2008. The calls are very alarming and no doubt in my mind it was a female. I asked him several times, he denied. Then last night, we had a talked and I was able to make him Confessed. He said, it was some girl he met in TX ( he went to TX for holidays by himself) and they exchanged numbers. He said, she was a family friend and at that time, him %26amp; I were having huge fights so he decided to talked to her. He said the girl was just a friend who has a degree in Psychology and he would asked her for some advice but he decided to cut-off their conversations on the phone bec. it was already getting too deep and serious. He promised me nothing ever happened between them. How will I know? How can I trust him again? How will I know if nothing really happen when he was in TX? And for him, he made it like it was my fault and that is the reason why he went ahead and exchanged numbers with a female. Can anyone pls. tell me if I should still continue this marriage? How can I ever trust him again? How will I know that if everytime we had arguments, he would go cheat on me as an act of revenge? I love him but he betrayed me. He might do the same thing to me again. I cannot believe he cheated on me. Is talking on the phone considered cheating? Am I crazy? Can anyone pls. tell me what I should do? I want to stay married but what do I need to do to make him feel BAD and GUILTY and SORRY for what he did to me? I want him to win me back. What do I need to do? Help!How do you cope up with a cheating husband?? Help!?
You both need to see a marriage counselor.How do you cope up with a cheating husband?? Help!?
bad guilty and sorry might make you feel better but it will not keep a marraige together. forgive is good but forget is better but harder.
YOU BETTER THAN ME I WOULD HAVE GOT THE NUMBER AND CALLED HER SHE HAS A DEGREE. YOU NEED TO MAKE HIM SUFFER
Personally I'd go to the fishing questions and find out how to skin a catfish... If you get my drift.
She has a degree in psychology?





That's a new one!
you serve him his papers and take your child and go
Oh, sweetie, my sincere condolences. But this happened to me and we went on to have 3 more years together. The problem: I couldn't let it go and drove him away. I forgave but I never forgot. That was the biggest mistake I've ever made to be honest. I made him pay. He won me back and I still couldn't let go of the fact he had an 8 month relationship with a woman he met at a mutual friends wedding who lived 3000 miles away. But I was the one in the wrong at the end...


A telephone relationship is just as bad as a physical one in my eyes. With a physical one you can boil it down to just that: physical. A phone relationship is based on emotions. Which is more scary.
I you love him and you want to work it out. Then FORGIVE him drop it and move on. If you want him back then work at it and never bring it up. Throwing it back in his face only causes problems and leverage for him to do it again. He will realize what kinda women he has.
If he did in fact cut off their conversations because it was getting too ';deep and serious'; then maybe its because he realized he had a better thing at home with you. Sometimes if your relationship is rocky you do need someone else to talk to - to get someone elses perspective. You may never know what happened in TX, but unless their are any other clues of cheating I think you need to put it behind you and work on your marriage. Not all men cheat. He probably wouldn't have told you as much about her as he did if anything further happened between them.
I think marriage counseling would be best. there are some huge issues with respect in ur marriage thats why u argue that why he cheated... most likely something did happen with that woman but u will never know unless one of them confesses. n it could be very possible that he could do it again... to retaliate against u.. regardless its all very unhealthy. it seems like u both have a lot of resentment build up and a third party that is neutral could help a lot. seek marriage counseling it does help.
I think your first step ought to be going to the site www.survivnginfidelity.com Go to the forum ';Just Found Out';. There is a lot of good information there. I would take this question and post it verbatim and also look at the Healing Library.





Good Luck with this, you are going to find a lot of company on the site.
You say you want to win him back????? Why is it up to you to win him back? You did nothing wrong. If you don't trust him then you need to talk this out. If you love him you need to get counseling. He needs to earn your trust back not the other way around. As to your question ';How do you cope up with a cheating husband';? You don't! Either work it out or move on. Its all up to you!
ok, well it could be as innocent as he says it is but if you are automatically gonna think the worst, this relationship will probably tank. You both need to go to a marriage councelor and forgive each other, a marriage is a 2 way street and it takes alot of work, even if sometimes one gives more than the other, but on the other hand, you can only do what you can and then it is up to him to do some of the work, play it out, get all the help you can and try to fix things but dont be selfish and really try, if you arent willing to do that, then file for a divorce because it isnt going to work. Good Luck
Oh that's a little hard because you really have no proof he cheated. I mean, how often did he go to Texas? But still, if I was you maybe I'd tell him I'd like to call her and talk to her about it, before he can call her and tell her what to say. I don't even know what that would accomplish, except sometimes the other girl is honest and will let you know exactly what went on between them. Yea, I think that's all I can do, but unless she tells you specifically something happened, I think you cant really leave him. Unless you're unhappy, and you don't see yourself being happy in the future if you've gone this long unhappy. Then I'd divorce him just because you're both miserable, and you can both be happier with other people. I don't know, but good luck with that.