How Do I Cope With My Boyfriend Cheating?

A while ago my boyfriend was having a party at his house. After everyone left he kept drinking while he was alone and was completely **** faced out of his mind. While that happened his friend came over with this really slutty girl and she had sex with him. They didn't finish because he was so drunk they stopped a minute into it, according to him and her.





He doesn't remember it ever happened and had to have her tell him it happened the next day at their school.





He and I have gotten over it but I'm still having trouble coping.





I know he loves me and he's been nothing but loyal other than that one mishap. We've partied together, gotten drunk together and everything. He cried when he told me and still cries when I bring it up in arguments. He never talks to the girl and hates her for what she did.





How do I cope with this? I know he loves me but I just can't get over the fact that he did it. I don't want to break up I just want to know if I'll ever get over it.How Do I Cope With My Boyfriend Cheating?
I think this would be a painful situation for anyone to deal with. It sounds like you did the right thing forgiving him and working toward moving forward and here's why: He made a mistake, which people often do when they're drunk out of their minds. It was a big mistake, but it wasn't deliberate or intending to hurt you, which I believe would be worse. If your boyfriend got drunk, got into a car and seriously hurt someone (or worse) you would be angry with him but you would work through it with him, right? It's a different mistake but it's not unlike what happened with this girl.


People do horrible things all the time and will use alcohol as an excuse, which is lame, but it happens. The point is that he's human and as long as this was just a one time occurrence, I don't believe he needs to be punished forever. He sounds like a perfectly great guy, otherwise, and even if you left him there is no guarantee that someone else wouldn't disappoint you in the same way or worse. If your best friend told you she did it to her boyfriend and was in tears regretting it, wouldn't want her boyfriend to forgive her?


There are many who do this kind of thing, sober, over and over and lie about it. This was a mistake. It sounds like he's learned from it. Don't let it eat away at a good relationship.How Do I Cope With My Boyfriend Cheating?
Ever since you found that out, most of the trust towards him went away. However, lets not forget that he was drunk. But then again, it's still not an excuse to hide the fact that he did it. On the other hand, he told you that he did it, that means he wanted to tell you everything%26amp;anything, because he's faithful to the relationship. %26amp; if you dont want to break up, then suck up the doubt and get over it. GoodLuck.
He hates her for what SHE did? Sorry sweetie...but it takes two to tango....I don't give a rats as* how drunk he say's he was.... that's a lame cop-out. He new damn well what he was doing with her...... If he loved you that much, then he never would have had sex with her. Cheating is a deal breaker for me....regardless of his excuses... I'd be gone. I have way to much respect for myself.........
He was under alcohol influence. Consider him incapacitated at the time of mishap. Sounds like he really regretted it. If you are going to forgive him, then don't bring it up again (including in arguments). Give him a serious warning but also a second chance.
Love is a strange thing that binds people together. It's all a lie, don't follow it, kill all of human kind AHHAHAHAHHAHAHA DEATH TO YOU ALL!!





KILL HIM *****, THEN KILL YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR FAMILY AND EVERYONE YOU'VE EVER MET IN YOUR ENTIRE LIFE.





DEATH TO HUMANS!


DEATH TO HUMANS!
honey, if he did it once, he can do it again, especially when he gets drunk out of his mind.





it won't be easy to forgive and forget a cheating boyfriend, and it won't be any easier if he does it again.
follow that one carrie underwood song
It's funny how it's ';human to error'; it's not like you are married to him
You may forgive but you will never forget.
Leave
Either drop it or move on. ...very simple... why go nuts over it....
i think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel.. about how ur having trouble coping up with what happened that night.. if ure sure he really loves you, it shouldnt be that much of a trouble.. but i do understand why u think that way.. its really complicated but ull get over it.. if u still love him and trust him.. :)





and i would suggest that u minimize drinking.. i have heard a lot of stories about parties.. im not anti-drinking, ok..?? just drink what you think you can handle.. tell him that... :-P
umm considering u can't cope with it proves that u haven't gotten over it. and rightfully so. he may have never done anything else, but u will always be wondering and questioning his faithfulness.


the whole he hates her for what she done is just ridiculious. where does he get off thinking he played no part in it?? it's as much his fault as it is hers...infact more his because he was the one who had the gf and cheated!!! also, turning on the waterworks when it's brought up is just his pathetic way to turn it bak on u and try to make u feel sorry for him. personally, if anyone did that to me they would be gone...i wouldn't put up with that treatment...i deserve and expect so much better than that %26amp; u should start believing that u do to!!!