He comes home after work. So no one he's spending tons of time with.
He knows if I find out, I'll leave him. So like he'd ever admit it.
What do I do...ignore it?How do I cope. I think my husbands cheating, but I can't prove it.?
Just keep a watchful eye out, sooner or later he will trip himself up. Just be patient and wait.
Watch for things like second cell phones, buying extra underwear, or any change in habits.
Some guys just have cell phone or Internet affairs and never leave home. For some reason they think that is not cheating. But it is. Try to be upbeat and as sweet as U can be. If he is cheating in some way, sooner or later the ';other woman'; will want more of his time and he will be forced into making some decisions. Keep an open dialog with him if at all possible, and keep your radar turned on. . Also keep an eye on his computer, and if U get the chance check out his ';history'; of usage and print out hard copies of anything unusual. Good LuckHow do I cope. I think my husbands cheating, but I can't prove it.?
I have been on both sides of this coin and I am really sorry to say, but I really do think he is cheating!! A woman usually has good instincts.
I think it is totally your choice as to what you should do. No one can say what they would REALLY do until they are in your shoes. I remember saying, ';I would NEVER put up with a guy cheating on me!'; well, that wasn't true :(
Sometimes what you don't know (all the details) won't hurt you! But I definately am NOT saying don't do anything about your situation! If you don't confront him with your feelings and intuition then he will just continue his actions. I mean why shouldn't he, you are letting him get away with it.
I hope this helps in some little way! Good luck!!
Unfortunately, I have found that if you think it is happening, it probably is. Human nature (and logic) causes you to require proof to take any formal action.
The easiest way I found out about my ex-husband was through his internet activity. If you are not internet savvy, use google and you will learn fairly quick.
It hurts like hell, and takes a while to get over. I question if any man can truly be faithful.
Good luck!
oh crap - was about to hit SUBMIT when i noticed your name is Soon to be Mom. I'm so sorry! I found out I was pregnant the same day I found out about the affair. Makes it even worse cuz you're already a pregnant emotional wreck. I really hope he is just being a jerk and not a cheating *** hole.
Speak to your husband about your concerns. Let him know you need reassurance. Be honest and tell him it is bothering you and if he has nothing to hide he will be willing to be open and honest and not so secretive. Me and my husband share emails address's and passwords In todays modern technology and all the temptations to cheat always brings up doubts no matter how much you trust your spouse.
A woman's instinct is always right, I don't care who begs to differ. He's probably aware your on to him, so he'll be a lot more sneaky. Chill out for a bit, act normal then eventually he'll leave clues around because men are dumb and they always get caught!!!!!
Ask him flat out, tell him your suspicions and if he doesn't come up with a REALLY good reason, not some bullshit, then leave him.
Ignore it for now,act like your not looking for evidence,then if he's cheating he will slip up.
What's done in the dark,shall come to light.
Don't have sex with him. Get checked for STD's and tell him he needs to get checked as well... because you believe he has cheated. Tell him, don't ask.
so ask him.
He could be a private person and feels that you are invading his privacy, it could be a hint that he wants your to respect his privacy
It could also be that he is playing mind games and want you to think something is going on, but it really isn't he is just having fun driving your crazy and playing dumb like he dont notice how you feel and he dont realize what he is doing, and he could be doing this probably because he feels like you are accusing him of wrong, and that your are insecure or dont trust him and he want to teach you a lesson, the saying goes if you accuse me of it i miles well do it or pretend like i am doing it so you dont make yourself a liar.
IF i was you i would not draw the conclusion that he is cheating unless you have solid evidence, or if he dont come home after work, or something more solid based on what you said it does not sound like he is cheating, if he dont come home, worry, if you see his emails or things on his computer you shouldnt worry, if you suspicious calls worry, if he has a lady secretary worry.
you can not worry, or assume, or drive yourself crazy with what ifs, if you are not 100% sure. You will rob yourself of happiness.
Maybe you can see the good in him, spend more time with him, restore your intimacy, ask him how he feels, cater to him without being clingy, give him complement and smile instead of suspicious looks.
Now if he is cheating, you know what to do. you said he know that if he is cheating you leave him. , if he is not cheating, make your marriage work, be positive and trusting and understanding and see things from his eyes and not your own. At least you dont have any regret or guilty feelings. you will rest knowing you did right by him and gave him the love trust attention and understanding he needs as a man as your husband.I hope you the best luck
follow your gut.
if you think he is then he is.
it sounds like what i was in once upon a time. he denied it too. and he came straight home from work too. but when i went to his job once just to pop up for lunch, thinking that I should make up for not trusting him, he wasn't there. I tried calling him. It went to voice mail. His cheating friend came out and called him (or it looked like he called him because it's his buddy) then came up to me and told me what i was doing there. Long story short, I waited for thirty minutes for him to come back from ';lunch';. He was rambling nervously and yes i caused a scene. I left. I was tired of playing detective. I was tired of becoming a non trusting woman. I figured that if he was cheating he will never admit it. I figured that if he wasn't cheating then I do not need to be in this relationship because of my thoughts and mistrust. So i left. The next day he was seeing my ex best friend. So he was cheating the whole time.
If he's cheating, he's not relegating it to email or phone conversations. Look for other clues - does he ever come home late from work? Is he allowed to leave his place of employment for lunch breaks? Borrow someone else's car, or even rent one, and follow him for a couple of weeks if you can. Or get someone you trust to do it for you. Have a camera with a good zoom on it if available, never know what you'll see. After you've followed him, inquire about his day and see if his story matches up to what you've observed. You could find lots of clues doing that. It's a lot of trouble, but you definetely shouldn't ignore it if you think he's cheating.
Also, if you haven't confronted him about this, don't! The more comfortable he feels, the more careless he's going to be. It sounds like he's pretty careful now. Probably he thinks you won't follow him at work. I'd say that it's worth taking some time off from your job, if you have one.
If he sits with his back facing a window, you could always see if you can stand outside and look through it, perhaps with binoculars or a zoom camera (just be sure to turn off the flash!), and see if you can read ';over his shoulder';.
Write down or type up all the clues you can think of. Make copies of stuff. Make notes about the times he's doing the things he's doing; likely you'll see a pattern somewhere. Keep track of that @ss!
Good luck, hope it all works out!
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