How did u cope when you were cheated on?

my boyfriend of 7 yrs cheated on me back in april..we are back together but i can't get it out of my mind %26amp; i stay angry even though i don't let it show much..i keep having nightmares about it %26amp; him leaving again..i don't wanna lose him %26amp; i am scared ( i know i sound pathetic sorry ) i am just curious to hear your situations %26amp; how u dealt with itHow did u cope when you were cheated on?
I understand the pain and nightmares, I've got them too. It was almost a year ago that I caught my husband having an affair. I have good days and bad days but what helps me get through is knowing that he is remorseful and sincerely dedicated to getting our marriage back on track. I remind myself that he chose me, not that other life, he chose me. If you are uncertain about his intentions, you can't get over the pain, you have to get out.How did u cope when you were cheated on?
7 years is a long time to be with someone and then they cheat. I mean the trust level in a relationship that long was great until the cheating happened. I mean you can always start over but it is not going to be easy. You both are going to like start from scratch and most people are not able to forgive and forget. I could never go back and when I was cheated on as hard as it was I left him holding the bag. I walked out on him but when you are living together and you have no where to go that is something different where you may have to try to forgive him or her.


The first time I was cheated on I stayed and I regretted it and he cheated on me many more time but sweetie at the same time I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater. Everyone has choices and some ppl have cheated and regretted it and promised never to do it again. 7 years is a long haul and I would look into yourself and see if you are able to forgive him I would do so but if you can not get out the sooner the better!
I was like you and thought I didn't want to loose him. I was scared all the time too. I finally got to the point where I thought I could trust him again and let my guard down. He cheated again. Sorry hon, but that is usually the case. By staying with him and putting up with this behavior, you are only putting yourself in the position for it to happen again. By the way I was married for 27 years. So just because you have 7 years invested in this relationship doesn't mean it is going to last. If it were me, I'd say leave now and find a new relationship that you can believe in and trust.
I divorced him, and took what was mine and then turned his butt into the police because the girl was under age, she was a teen but still she was under age and he totally brain washed this poor sad mind. Ahhh but now he cannot go near and schools or parks. Oh the scorn of a woman.





Honey from a personal note, why stay with him? I know you guys have been together for a long time but, he cheated for a reason and who is to say he will not do it again? He knows you won't leave him and I guarantee he will do this again, they always do you seem to needy to him and he knows you will not go anywhere regardless of what he does. i have been there and done that. The only way to get over this is to leave and never look back.
I never did ';cope';. I got over it but I also broke it off with anyone and everyone that has ever cheated on me. I've been cheated on twice but two different men, both serious relationships. It was hard to let go of someone I had trusted and loved but I cannot stand lying or cheating and will not put up with it. I'm happier now for letting them go because I have learned to trust by spending time on myself and have finally found a man that is worth it.
My boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me and a year later we got back together.





I was able to forgive him for what he did, but I was never able to forget what he did. And for that reason it didn't work out.





I couldn't look at him the same anymore. He ruined all the trust and respect I had for him over the last 6 years.
This happened to me once with an ex (I am married now to a nice guy) Anyways, he bawled and cried that he was sorry and it was a mistake but I just could not trust him. Every time I looked at him I wanted to claw his eyes out. Needless to say it didn't work out. I truly believe in the saying ';once a cheater, always a cheater';. Try to move on and get this negativity out of your life. What kind of life are you having?
ok here's wat u do talk 2 him about it if he didnt want 2 be with u ya wont be back 2 gether.Just talk 2 him and tell him how u feel about it and if the relationship was meant 2 be he wont cheat on u and if it's not meant 2 be somebody will break-up w/h the other.I'm not sayin ya should brake up im just sayin just be true 2 eachother and ya will be just fine.!
Once the trust is gone from a relationship the relationship is next. If you can't get over what he did then you should end the relationship. Don't be miserable due to his infidelity.
I confronted her and made her call the man while I was standing there and tell him the truth. I have watched her very closely since and she has expressed her love to me and has not strayed. If she does, I will leave her in a minute.
1) he is a cheating dog get rid of him





2) and your back with him - are you wanting more of the same again of him cheating
well you're not his wife so do not give him any sex anyway, if he truely loves you [and you love him] he will propose be faithful and marry you if he doesn't love you he will cheat again, guaranteed.
Oiled up the pistol and found the extra clip.
I didn't put up with it. I would rather be alone then to constantly worry about my bf cheating on me.
It will probably require some therapy for both of you. I would insist that he attend. After all...he owes you big time.
you cope by accepting it....and then gettins side action!
move on





you don't HAVE to cope with this by staying with him. if this is something you can't move on from (and i understand if you can't) maybe you should start a new beginning...without him.






I think I dealt with so well because I left him.





I couldn't deal with it if I had to still look at him.