What and how would you cope with a abusing and cheating ex,?

I was married to one guy and he had abused and cheated on me, he cheated on me with my friend and she is now living with him, after they both had lied to us about it. Has anyone had to cope with it. I am over it, but I still have to face it when dealing with daughter.What and how would you cope with a abusing and cheating ex,?
Just realize that you are the lucky one, you don't have to live with him and his abuse and cheating. She will get her rewards by having to deal with it herself. And he will have to live with the fact that he is not a nice person. You can have the last laugh in this case, you're the smart one who got out.What and how would you cope with a abusing and cheating ex,?
You should not have to face him or your former friend. Have him pick up your daughter at your home, send your daughter out the door and you stand behind the door. Have your ex bring your daughter home, but do not let him see you.


If that doesn't work for you have someone be a go-between for you. You should not have to be involved with him at all after he has treated you so badly.
Yikes! This is a situation that you will enjoy sitting back and watching blow up. Seriously... he cheated on you with her... he will cheat on her with someone else. I don't want to get all Dr Phil... but ';If he does it with you, he'll do it too you';





Having a child with this guy makes it more difficult and I don't envy you for being stuck with this guy forever. I would strongly suggest that you keep a very close eye on your daughter. She will tell you if she is being abused as long as you keep the communication going.





As for the rest of it..... there isn't a lot you can do. Get a visitation order written and follow it to the letter. If he misses a visit, log it down. Explain to your daughter that you and your ex love her very much, but you get along better like this... being seperate.





You are out of that relationship... that can be a tough move for anyone to make... now protect your daughter, and like I said eariler... eventually he will leave the next victim...er... girlfriend and the pattern will start over again....
Every time you think you could be living with a liar, cheater and an abuser you should feel sorry for her.





You tell your daughter you and her father couldn't live together but that he loves her.





Let it go at that....when she gets older she'll figure it out for herself.
My rambling on this is as follows. I am not a certified person to answer these questions but I can share your pain a bit. If you have 2 kids, I think it is not a bad idea to give up the daughter to your ex so you can avoid dealing with her completely for the rest of your life. If the ex doesn't want her ( it shows what an irresponsible person he is even with his new mate as it can happen to her also), then be brave and raise your daughter with good education. Life along its way offers companionship and who is better to offer to you than your own kids. If you try to handle all the kids, it could be very hard these days to ensure best companionship to your kids.





I think when you offer the 2 fundamental aspects of a companionship - truth and love with a pinch of understanding and logic, I feel dealing with your daughter is much easier. A person that I know is in the same situation like you are but with 2 kids and I hope you are not her. Good luck.