How do i cope after being cheated on?

My girlfriend of 2 years has cheated on me a few days ago. An all i do is freak out and cry. I cant stop because i used to love her so much. She had an affair with another guy. All i wanna do is cry, but on the other hand i wanna punch this guy in the nose and slam his head against my knee. I cant take it anymore. It makes my stomach hurt every time i think of it... it is all i think about and i have not been eating that much. All i do is sleep. I left her... but i cant get over it. I feel dumb because she did this before and i gave her another chance. Im afraid to find someone else because i dont want this to happen again. Thinking about this makes me cry hard. I cant stand it. I just wanna die... any help?How do i cope after being cheated on?
first of all it takes time to get over something like this, don't feel dumb for giving her another chance, u loved her and u wanted it to work. but there are no guarantees. don't be afraid to get back out there and find a new love, everyone isn't like your ex. don't cheat yourself out of a new life just because someone betrayed u. that's life, sometimes u get a good one sometimes u get a bad one. its a game of chance mostly. don't loose your dignity and go after the other guy, or her. the one thing u got now is your dignity and that u had the guts to show her what she did to u had consequences, and for that u are ahead of her.stop crying and plan a new life, with a new person. its not what is done to us that is so important, its how we choose to handle it.How do i cope after being cheated on?
Stop thinking about her, she was a skanky whore, and she wasn't good enough for you.





Now, you just take one day at a time, and you stop dwelling on any good things- concentrate on how hurt she made you, and how little regard she showed toward your heart, and you will soon stop thinking about her.





And know this for sure- many of us are faithful to our men, and you too will find someone who is.


Good luck, and hang in there, every day is easier!
If she's done it before and you gave her another chance, and blew it again you need to leave her. Obviously, her feelings aren't as strong as yours are, and why would you want to be in love with someone who doesnt have that amount back.








Go out with your friends dont sit and dwell at home, It makes all the difference. Don't get me wrong it will take awhile to get over but you will never forget. In your next relationship, remember to give her a clean slate not every girl is the same.
The best way to get over one woman is to get under another. No seriously you are going to hurt for a while because you did love her. If you did not care then you would have moved on a long time ago. It is okay to allow yourself to feel hurt but if it is consuming your day, then you need to get up, shower, shave, and go do whatever it is that makes you happy.
The only thing i can tell you is.Once you take a cheater back it just lets them know they can do it again. The second thing is it takes two so you can't put all the blame on him.Third you need to take your time and talk with friends and see what they have to say.But it all lies on your shoulders to make it go away.There is someone out there for us all don't rush things take a time out. PS keep it real and pray about it.
my spouse cheated on me also. we almost got divorced. we where split up for 6 mo. the time we where apart help heal the wounds. we keep talking and finally work things out. and i gave my spouse a second chance. i know the feeling of wanting to punch the lights out. i can understand giving her the second chance before. everybody makes mistakes but she doesn't need another. as far as trusting someone else. you have too because everybody isn't like your girlfriend. in a few days you will start feeling better.
I think you should ask her why she did it. Maybe she had a good reason, as bad as that may sound. She could of been lonely, or angry with you about something else. Give her a call. Hold her. Hug her. Show her how much you love her still. I believe women are capable of having sex with other men, and still loving their main guy. This just maybe be a little something that you have to put up with on occasion.
Shes done it before? Sounds to me like you need to find a new girlfriend someone who can be faithful to you and cause you less pain! If you don't think you deserve better then you won't get better. Remember you can't turn a hoe into a housewife! If you keep taking her back she knows she can keep doing it at YOUR expense. You seem to be the only one in pain. MOVE ON!
Pick yourself up and dust yourself off; drop the looser and get on with your life; get out there and find someone worthy of your love. There is nothing that will get you over an old love like a new love.Walk away and be the better man.


One of life's rough moments;just chalk it up to a lesson learned.
You have to give it time. It is very hard to get over infidelity, but you will with time. Don't worry about getting into another relationship just yet, and trust me, you will find someone that will be faithful. We are not all like that.
Let her go and move on. Try to think of anything you disliked about her and be thankful you don't have to deal with it anymore. Keep busy doing good things, working out at a gym etc. Life will go on and you'll feel better if you do things that you enjoy.
my dear boy its called a broken heart they mend but they never forget lessons learned move on its takes a while


but don't feel dumb you trusted her again ouch she is not worth it it was her that was no good not you


in time and i mean it it will get better good luck
Been there... its normal... but you made a mistake when you let her get away with it the first time..... This will make u stronger ans smarter for future women that come into your life... it will be tough to get over but you will.....try working out and getting your aggression out.... try a boxing club gym.... you will find someone that deserves you!





Give it time!
man looks like you been through a lot ,and also i say you shouldn't be scared of meting someone because you think that they cheat on you ,not everyone is like this i'm sure you met someone that will be there with you to the end okay well good luck .
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why kick the guy's a--? She 's the one who knew better %26amp; messed up! So did you by taking her back after the first time. I wonder if there has been others that you don't know about. She's just a bad fish. What you need to do is to go fishing again - many more out their at sea. Don't let that one ruin it for the others to have a chance to meet you %26amp; get to know you. I bet you do have a lot to offer to someone special. Just not that last one. Please move on %26amp; get out there and live!
Well the most important person to give a second chance to is yourself. Stop blaming yourself for being kind. Stop telling yourself that you will not find a partner.





I do not want a partner because they only wreck things up. I would have to find someone very peaceful and free who did not want to own me but just enjoyed me. That kind of person does not need to lie and deceive. To find such a person I have to be free and peaceful myself.





Do you not think that you are grabbing onto a partner for safety rather than walking freely beside them? Do you not think that you would do very well to have some time to yourself.





Life is long. Very long. It does not seem so so we feel in a hurry to find love. But the older you get the longer life becomes until you realize that you are eternal. And if you are eternal you do not want to hurt yourself in any way because then you would have that hurt forever. So take this opportunity to heal and to make a committment to yourself not to get involved until you have true love and long term commitment.





When you have healed you need some time to be with yourself. You may wish to read these two books.





True Love by Thich Nhat Hahn


The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
First of all, stop crying. She does not seem to be worth it. Secondly, try to ask yourself honestly, what is it that made her leave? Did she ever give any sign of what may have been wrong? Third but not least- the fact that she left DOES NOT mean that you won't find another gf. Please get yourself together and start enjoying things again. Anger will not do you any good. It's counter productive. And not attractive.. Have alook around and dont be afraid to be the one to start a conversation.


good luck and a good day!
I feel for you. Its really painful when you give someone your heart and you get betrayed. especially more than once. Don't feel dumb for giving her a second chance last time, you loved her and forgave her because she led you to believe she felt the same way and was sorry. That is a poor reflection of her not you. But don't forgive a second time. You feel the way you do because your heartbroken and probably depressed. Its normal but if your thinking about not wanting to live you need to reach out for help. I know it doesn't feel like it now but it does get better, trust m i've been there. Eventually you will find someone who loves and respects you the way you do them. I'm not sure if this has helped at all, but i hope it has.
Well, My husband of 3 yrs, with whom a have a 7 month baby girl with, Cheated on me while out in Iraq. %26amp; continued the relationship once back in the states. At the moment I was pregnant. SO I can understand exactly waht u mean. I can tell u one thing, There is nothing u can do, but let time heal the wounds!! Hitting the guy, it might make u feel better but is not gonna change anything!! Not everybody is the same. For instance I would have never cheated on my husband!! If this is the second time she does it, just forget it. Its her loss... Cry all that u have to, it helps. %26amp; dont llisten to anthing negative that others have to say!! Just try to stay busy!! %26amp; eventually u'll notice that u think about it less %26amp; less!! Until ur completely over it!! Everything happends for a reason, %26amp; she wasnt good for u so she is out!! God Bless, %26amp; Good Luck!!
um... what did you love about her? Her evil conniving side? Her lies? The way she looks at other men? If you mention looks, I'm gonna slap you.





Look dude, women do things when their needs aren't being met. Don't freaking cry. I know ur hurt, but just see this as you not being up to her caliber of man. and move on. She might like you for certain reasons... but what is really important to her, you can't provide. And if she is just wicked, why would you want to provide anything for her anyway?





It's okay to feel dumb, or that you've been phucked over. It happens a lot, and this is not unique to you. But if you fall and don't get up... you''l look even worse. so get up, dust off the humiliation, and move on with ur life. Dont just waste away. get up now, and go back to the drawing boards... see who you want to become, and become that person.
If this is the second time that she cheated on you then tap yourself on the shoulder and be proud of you that you broke up with her. She doesn't deserve your love. And you should not cry or want to die because of this girl. You deserve much better then this.





I can sense how much you love her but loving her is only causing you misery. Now it's time for you to let go and for you to move on without her. The pain right in unbearable but I promise you that you will forget about her. And you should not be afraid of loving someone else because not all girls are like your ex. You need to keep busy and you need to go out with your friends. And start dating again. You'll see in no time you will be back on your feet. Just don't stay in the house or in your room thinking about her and the pain she has caused you. You had a life before you met your ex and you'll have a life without her by your side.
Im sorry for what happened to you, I know it can be the most painful thing in the world.


I was cheated on too, and I tried to stay with my boyfriend then for another one and a half years, we dated a total of 3 and half years. But I could never get over it either. As much as I wanted to, I could never trust him again, and honestly I dont believe he was the type that could be trusted anyway. We ended up breaking up, and I feel that was the only thing we could have done. What i did was find a guy that I really felt like I could trust, he just has a more trustworthy personality. he had never had a girlfriend before, never had sex before, saw marriage as a permanent thing, didnt believe in just having sex to have sex, all that stuff.. he just had an innocent personality and shared the same values I did.. and I married him. and to this day I trust him very much and we are happy together. So I guess my advice for you is to leave this girl, you obviously will never be able to trust her again, as much as you might want to. sometimes cheating justdamages people beyond repair. but I wouldnt sell youself short by saying you will never be able to trust again, just do what I did and find a girl that really is trust worthy, and let her prove to you that not all women are cheaters.