From a gospel prospective, how am I suppose to cope with a cheating Dad?

The first affair happened 8 years ago. Last month we started to be able to pick up patterns again.Sure enough, after my Mother had confronted him, he confessed that he had been having another affair with someone else for the last 5 years.





He told her that he was breaking it off, got consuling by a therapist and also our bishop. He has been taking medication for depression and Bipolar disorder. But yet, the private investergater has said that he has still be seeing this other woman, including today.





I am the oldest of the five kids my parents have together. This time I am out of the house, I am married and have a 2 year old. My silbings range in ages from 8-17.





Since he still is living at home, I do have to have contact with him. I love him, he is my Dad, but I hurt by how he is a liar and a cheater.





From a gospel prospective, how am I suppose to take in all of this? How am I suppose to be the comforter of my silbings? I hurt for my mother. I hurt for my siblings. Thank you.From a gospel prospective, how am I suppose to cope with a cheating Dad?
Looks like Mark has missed the point...





I feel so sorry for you and all your family. I know you hurt for everyone and for yourself. It must be really hard to know how to act with your Dad. Don't take it all on yourself, although as the oldest, and a grown woman, you have the best opportunity to help your mother and the younger kids. Be there for your mother and give her a chance to be on her own once in awhile. Hang out with the younger kids. The younger they are, the more difficult it is for them to make any sense of this and not get emotionally involved. Your Dad has mental problems, as you know. They need to know that it has nothing to do with them. From a Gospel point of view, love and faithfulness is all you can do now. Pray with your mother and agree together that you will trust God for answers. Join with the kids, if you can. Promise each other that you will be faithful and support each other, and look for what God has in store. That way, you aren't feeling tossed around by ';cruel fate';. I don't know what will happen in the future, but it won't tear your family apart.From a gospel prospective, how am I suppose to cope with a cheating Dad?
First of all i'm not sure you should have asked this question on this site due to the Bible thumping Kook's on here. But as a Christian (Catholic) i must tell you to pray incessantly for him and never stop showing your love for him and be there for your Mother to show her your love and support....
Stone him.
An Aduterous MATE... is to be taken to TASK.... by the Church....!





See this....





(Matthew 18:15-to-17) But if your brother shall trespass against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.





(Mat 18:16) But if he will not hear you, take one or two more with you, so that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.





(Mat 18:17) And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he neglects to hear the church, let him be to you as a heathen and a tax-collector.





And.....





(1Corinthians 5:1-to-6) On the whole it is reported that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not even named among the nations, so as one to have his father's wife.





(1Co 5:2) And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, so that he who has done this deed may be taken from your midst.





(1Co 5:3) For as being absent in body but present in spirit, I indeed have judged already as though I were present concerning him who worked out this thing;





(1Co 5:4) in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when you are gathered together, with my spirit; also, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ;





(1Co 5:5) to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.





(1Co 5:6) Your boasting is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?





PERHAPS.... the next course.... IF THE CHURCH.... Will NOT Act....is to File for Divorce!





Thanks, RR
First, you don't have to cope with your Dad. He isn't cheating on you. Your pain is understandable and natural, however. But your best course is to remind all concerned of your love and don't attempt any intervention. Pray for God's blessing and accept what He does.
You've been through so much in your life that as they see you making it in life and putting away those things that destroy so many young people that you give them hope just by being hopeful and showing them your love. You need to deal very carefully with your dad letting your mom handle it for the most part. You need not pretend you approve or even ignore it. If he is truly repentant then forgive but wisdom would say for a long time be wary. Make sure for your own family you stay straight and work hard to keep others form the pain of the things you and your family have been through. You speak of a gospel perspective? It is to follow the ways of Jesus and He has written them down in His word. He has provided a pathway of true peace and joy. Not the absence of pain or trouble, but a peace that stabilizes in difficult times and a joy that remains when the tears fall. May He give you this understanding and lead you in His pathway of peace.
Confront him, and bring someone along (Matt. 18:15-17).
First, pray. Offer everything up to Jesus - your pain, your concerns, your worries, your desires, everything. Second, continue seeking help from counselors, religious and secular. I do have to add now that I know you love your father and your siblings; you know the pain they're living through, as you also did, but your family is different now. You have a wife and child. THEY are your family now, your first priority. Everything you do from here on out is first to benefit them, and others second.





You can still do everything you can to help your siblings and mother and father, but you cannot allow anything to come before your new family. It would be unloving of you if you did.





Please, first and foremost, lay this at the foot of the cross. Ask Jesus to heal this, to carry this load, because we just don't have the strength. And if He's in charge, then nothing will be left behind or undone. All will be healed.





God bless.